The Holidays When Someone you Love has Cancer

When a loved one has cancer, it is exceptionally difficult to move on with life as usual. The holidays that used to be joyous and exciting can now feel impossible to get through. Cancer puts an enormous strain on the individual patient, their close relationships, and the family dynamic as a whole. The hardship you and your loved ones are experiencing will inevitably impact the ability to enjoy these times of celebration. Today we will discuss navigating the holidays when a loved one has cancer and how you can offer them additional support. 

Do Your Research

Planning ahead for upcoming festivities and gatherings will help you feel prepared for any circumstances that come up. Do some research on their condition to better understand where they are in their treatment journey and how it is impacting their physical and mental state. 

Accept Change

It is important to set realistic expectations for the holiday season. The traditions, events, and usual routine of past holidays may not be feasible this year, and that's okay. Be present and enjoy the simple things. Cherish every moment with your loved ones, and appreciate the quality time you have with them. 

Be a Good Listener

Try to listen and pay close attention to what they are comfortable with. Instead of jumping to offer support, take a second to check-in and see what kind of support they need at this moment in their lives. Some cancer patients may prefer not to talk about what they're going through, and some will be the opposite. If your loved one does not seem like their usual selves, understand that everyone copes differently, and going through cancer treatment can significantly impact one's state of mind.

Take Action

Offer assistance and take some weight off of their shoulders. For those battling cancer, the holidays can be demanding and exasperate feelings of helplessness. They may feel discomfort knowing they cannot maintain traditions as they used to and operate at full mental and physical capacity. Taking on some extra responsibility and offering practical support is a great way to minimize the stress of your loved one. If you are able, helping out with cleaning, cooking, decorating, and holiday shopping can make a substantial difference. 

Pay Attention to Their Health

Your loved one’s physical and mental health is of the utmost priority at this time. Notice any major shifts in how they are feeling and help facilitate regular communication with their care team.  

Note: You can use Wave Health App as a tool to keep a record of their condition, evaluate treatment side effects, and track any changes in the duration or severity of their symptoms. 

Lastly, remember to take care of yourself. Seeing a loved one go through cancer can be complex, saddening, and emotionally taxing for all who are involved. In order to best care for your friend or family member, you must look after yourself too. Your feelings are valid, and it is more than okay to need some extra support during this time.